Then YOU should meet The Fly Lady! Oh my gosh – I am SO happy to have found her again!
A couple of years ago when I first got married, I was looking for something to help me learn how to manage our household. I knew the things that needed to be done, but getting them accomplished without sabotaging myself in my perfectionist (and therefore, procrastinating) ways proved to be very difficult. I visited several sites, made weak attempts at their “programs” and gave up.
Then I had 2 girls. Two girls who have LOTS of stuff and LOVE to be messy. In very different ways. Curly LOVES to empty her closets & drawers, pull the sheets and blankets off her bed, empty out all the toys – and then leave. Georgie, however, is going to be my mud pie girl, I’m afraid. The messier she can be with her food – the better. She also enjoys emptying toys all over and then leaving them – kinda like booby traps on the floor for mommy & daddy.
Not to mention my husband. I’m honestly not complaining here – but he just doesn’t pay attention to (or maybe he’s just not anal about) how neat and uncluttered (or messy and cluttered) our house is. On one hand, he isn’t always harping on me to clean the house; on the other, if he can’t find a certain pair of pants or a specific piece of paper because it’s been moved, we’re on a wild goose chase to find it.
Being a “Messie” myself, collections of clutter have been good friends of mine for many years. But when I got married and became a mom, I think a hidden gene flipped on, because NOW I’m going bananas dealing with clutter, mess, disorganization and such. It’s NOT that I want to be on a rigid schedule that doesn’t allow room for fun. It’s that I want to have fun finding a simpler way of life.
Now that I’m home full-time and feel much more responsible for the condition of our house and home (by nature), I have been searching for a system that would be effective for us without entirely changing our lifestyle. So, on this journey to better myself, to improve our home and the quality of our life, I started looking again. Somewhat hesitantly and not too eagerly to commit to anything. I just don’t want to start again and FAIL QUIT.
I’ve always been a list maker – a pros vs cons kind of gal – making lists about tasks, chores, groceries, wishes, dreams, etc. I’m also easily overwhelmed by the vast and seemingly endless list of things that need to be accomplished. So I usually quit before I really get started.
However, a visit to the Fly Lady and a review of her info BEFORE committing, has sparked my creativity and desire to get on the stick and be a HOME-MAKER, not just a housekeeper/maid.
The first thing she does is address PERFECTIONISM, PROCRASTINATION and CREATIVITY. Um, HELLO anyone home here??? She actually says (in her welcome letter when you join for FREE) our imagination and creativity (which can contribute to sidetrackedness and procrastination) are our gifts. We may not be born organized, but we can use our gifts to set a plan to help us find a better quality of life.
That stopped me in my tracks. I don’t remember reading that when I visited with her before. You mean, I can actually be creative and have fun getting and keeping my home and family organized and more contented??? SERIOUSLY??? Now when I started using safer products to clean my home and do my laundry, it was a lot of fun – I enjoyed it. No harsh ingredients, my skin wasn’t constantly itching, no more polluting the environment, and my house didn’t smell like a chemical plant. I have been MUCH better about cleaning in the past several months since I’ve been using these fantastic products!
So, I am getting started. I’m taking baby steps – after all I’m a new Fly Baby. =)
I found myself questioning everything when I started on my first couple of steps (cuz that IS my nature) because I didn’t understand why Shining my Sink was going to make ANY difference in my life. And then I said to myself, “Self.” That’s how I talk to myself. “Self,” I said, “don’t question. You are desperate. You need help. Follow the steps and see what happens.”
So that’s what I’m doing. This is officially Day 1, and I’m actually making progress and FEEL GOOD about it. About just accomplishing 3 things! Woohoo!
BONUS: She is going to teach me how to create a CONTROL JOURNAL, too! Now, she sells them prebuilt to get you started if you want – or she can teach you how to create one day by day. If you’re anything like me, you like control, and even if this is the ONLY thing I can control, I feel better for having it around. I like to personalize things myself (hence my CONTROL issue), so I’m all set for creating my own. The Fly Lady’s store has TONS of other great stuff to help anyone accomplish a cleaner, more organized home and assist in reaching one’s goals!
Hey – It’s not the New Year and I haven’t turned 40 YET, but I can still make changes, so I’ll start small and see how it goes. Feel free to check up on me and ask me how I’m doing to keep me accountable. =)
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Don’t forget – tomorrow I’ll be posting several FAMILY-FAVORITE Recipes from Queen Martha – and later this week, we’ll review more tips, shortcuts and suggestions in keeping Holiday Preparations simple and fun!